Saturday, November 2
Saturday, October 19
Friday, May 10
Thursday, May 9
Below is the letter I sent to my Senator in hopes that he'll be making a green vote next week. Today was such a big day!!
I excused myself from a meeting today when the great news came through. I excused myself because I had to call my husband who happens to be out of town during this monumental time. I had to call my husband because he is the one who would know and understand the reason I had tears today!
Yes. I call him my husband and I have since the day we had our wedding almost 4 years ago right here in Minnesota . It was a beautiful (albeit cold) day shared with about one hundred of our closest friends and family in the vineyards at Carlos Creek Winery in Alexandria. I understand that I have no legal right to call him that but that doesn't discourage me. When I use the word husband, sure, I get a funny look, and sometimes a question about how that works since Minnesota doesn't allow gays to marry. But, again, it doesn't deter me from calling him who he is because when I use the word husband everyone knows the relationship I am conveying to them. They know that I'm talking about an individual who I am committed to. Devoted to. Share a life with. Someone I can discuss all the intricate details of my day with and he doesn't lose interest. Someone who I make serious decisions with like buying a house or a car or what dietary plan we should consider for our everything-intolerant puppy or what color to paint the baby's room.
And, once again, yes, I said baby's room. My husband is also the man I'm so excruciatingly excited to become a father with. We are underway to becoming daddy and papi to a beautiful baby. We've completed our home study and taken all the classes like anyone else who's going to add to their family through the wonderful process of adoption. We're currently just waiting for that wonderful call that will tell us someone is interested in us becoming fathers to the child they're going to bring into this world.
I am now ever hopeful that when that call happens we can say that not only are we committed to each other, as husbands, and committed to becoming fathers but that our child will have every legal right and protection that any of their playdate friends or classmates will have. They'll have that security because Minnesota will have granted our child's parents the legal right to call each other husbands.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I send this to you not because I think you need to hear every constituent's story but because this constituent is counting on you to make sure my child is protected. Oh, and being able to call my husband again on Monday (in tears) would be an amazing feeling!!
Signed da da da
Wednesday, May 8
Monday, May 6
Friday, April 26
Monday, April 1
The patio had an ocean view. And when I say ocean view, I mean, I could hear waves crashing all night long. It was beautiful.
My parents' hospitality was beyond gracious! Not only did they host us in their rental but they carted us off to piers and restaurants and harbors and golf and wineries!! We were truly lucky to be in their care. The first couple of days, I couldn't quite get me grasp on staying awake. I was quite tired and was perfectly content moseying around Laguna Beach and staying close. However, once Monday hit, it was amazing to get out golfing, zoo-ing, wine-ing and more eating!
Enjoy the pics...
My best photosphere from the vaca! (Click on it and you get the real deal!)
The rest of our wonderful trip!
Sunday, March 10
We were up to all sorts of trouble this weekend. Well, not really, but we did have a great time laughing it up with friends, sharing deep thoughts, telling jokes and playing a few games. Made a nice trip up to the lake and created a few new memories with some amazing people.
Friday afternoon/evening kicked off our weekend with a stop out at The Hatchery to see my cousin and his man. Of course, we enjoyed some delectable bar food and a few cocktails; thank you, again, for the wonderful night and entertainment. The games were able to continue back at the lake place. A fun new game called Cards Against Humanity made for an evening of...amusement.
Friday, February 8
This is the profile that expectant mothers will browse to get their first impression of the Sylvas. If they're intrigued or intereseted, reading our home study or having a phone conference could be the next step.
Sunday, January 20
Wednesday, January 16
Then, a couple of days ago, Chip and I had Chinese for dinner. Upon opening his fortune, it couldn't have been better timing, his face lit up. His fortune read, "A small lucky package is on its way to you soon."
Now, these 2 little tokens are resting in the baby's room, awaiting our new arrival!
Sunday, January 13
The second project was one that started tugging on our heartstrings. As our application reached its destination on Friday and is hopefully being processed, we have started thinking a lot about getting prepped for our little bundle. Painting was the number one thing on the list and also a pretty quick and inexpensive place to start. Phoebe's room has officially been converted to 'the baby's' room. Which means we are one step closer to being ready for an addition to our family. Chip had to put on the breaks because I wanted to get artwork on the walls and get things in place. However, it's difficult when furniture isn't in place. We'll get there. I'm sure there are a few more weekends between here and baby arrival time...
Some before and after pics...
It looks a little blue, we're hoping once furniture and artwork gets in place, it'll gray out. We'll be posting pics and baby room updates on 'The Baby's Room' page. I'm sure updates will land here, as well. :)
Once again, we had a great weekend and we look forward to many more preparing for a new arrival.
Saturday, January 5
According to the Chinese calendar I was born in the year of the Rat. Chip in the year of the Dog. If all goes well, the stars be aligned and the fat lady sings, our child will be born in the year of the Snake. We've been researching, filling out paperwork, going to classes and filling out more paperwork all to bing us to this moment. We are very hopeful that 2013 will bring us our first child.
Our current status reads that we will be soon listed with an agency in Florida. We are listing with an agency in the South because the need for adoptive parents is high thus we'll hopefully have a placement sooner. Heart of Adoption came as a recommendation from a couple we met through our social worker and we were encouraged to find out they placed with four gay couples in 2012. We have great hope that we'll be a part of their 2013 statistics.
Our next steps at home include painting a bedroom, repurposing an armoire and beginning to make a list of things we'll be needing and looking for. We are very grateful for the beautiful letters of recommendation that helped us start this process. And we're finding out gratitude carried through as we continue to receive such positive support from our friends and families. This has been a long journey so far and we're expecting to have a bit of trek in front of us yet.
I can't begin to share the emotions that stir daily as our process continues. I'm sure there is a word for it, but it escapes me ... However, it is best summed up by the look on our faces anytime the topic is brought up and we're allowed to share our current chapter in this story. Stay tuned...