Saturday, November 2

Wait 'til You Have Kids

Oh, trust me, we've been waiting!

But now, we'd like the wait to be over. We're sitting at about the nine month mark of being on the waiting list. Granted, that's only about 1/2 of the average wait, but "Oh bother!" is my response to that. Heart of Adoptions, where we are listed, has been great with responding to my inquiries, so "thank you" to them. I'm sure they get constant emails from prospective parents about profile inquiries, but it's reassuring to know that they respond professionally and promptly.

Meanwhile, at the Bat Cave, we've been slowly adding to the baby's room decor. The process is terribly exciting and fun with a small side of sting. I love knowing that one day the room will be filled with cooing, diapers, bedtime stories, kisses (Eskimo and otherwise), nooks and spit-up rags. But, most of all, filled with love. (Whatever, you knew it was coming.) I just wish that day were soon.

We still have a crib (that's a big one) and a rocker (another big one) on the shopping list. We're fairly confident we know what we want, it's just a matter of hunkering down and making the purchase.

Today, Adan added the most adorable knobs on the armoire. It was an idea I had once we decided to fill the lamp base with antique letter blocks... At first I thought it would be cute to spell the baby's name from top to bottom on the drawers. However, Grandma Hooch's most recent delivery of letter blocks revealed some adorable classic cartoon characters on one of the faces of each block. Adan choose his favorites and went to work... We found that we had enough letters left over to spell our baby's name (whether boy or girl). So they're set aside for another day. I'll have to do some updating to the website soon.


Saturday, October 19

Special Guests

So happy to have some visitors today. Get to see Khloe and Kari, watch a movie and enjoy a special dinner treat made by Kari. She is such a happy, beautiful little girl. Momma just stepped out and the little princess is about to take a nap...

Friday, May 10

35 degrees

Didn't stop my baby girl and I from enjoying coffee on the deck with this beautiful sunrise. Hopefully tomorrow will bring more of the same. Well, okay, we wouldn't mind a few degrees warmer.

Thursday, May 9

Dear Senator,

Below is the letter I sent to my Senator in hopes that he'll be making a green vote next week. Today was such a big day!!

I excused myself from a meeting today when the great news came through. I excused myself because I had to call my husband who happens to be out of town during this monumental time. I had to call my husband because he is the one who would know and understand the reason I had tears today!

Yes. I call him my husband and I have since the day we had our wedding almost 4 years ago right here in Minnesota . It was a beautiful (albeit cold) day shared with about one hundred of our closest friends and family in the vineyards at Carlos Creek Winery in Alexandria. I understand that I have no legal right to call him that but that doesn't discourage me. When I use the word husband, sure, I get a funny look, and sometimes a question about how that works since Minnesota doesn't allow gays to marry. But, again, it doesn't deter me from calling him who he is because when I use the word husband everyone knows the relationship I am conveying to them. They know that I'm talking about an individual who I am committed to. Devoted to. Share a life with. Someone I can discuss all the intricate details of my day with and he doesn't lose interest. Someone who I make serious decisions with like buying a house or a car or what dietary plan we should consider for our everything-intolerant puppy or what color to paint the baby's room.

And, once again, yes, I said baby's room. My husband is also the man I'm so excruciatingly excited to become a father with. We are underway to becoming daddy and papi to a beautiful baby. We've completed our home study and taken all the classes like anyone else who's going to add to their family through the wonderful process of adoption. We're currently just waiting for that wonderful call that will tell us someone is interested in us becoming fathers to the child they're going to bring into this world.

I am now ever hopeful that when that call happens we can say that not only are we committed to each other, as husbands, and committed to becoming fathers but that our child will have every legal right and protection that any of their playdate friends or classmates will have. They'll have that security because Minnesota will have granted our child's parents the legal right to call each other husbands.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I send this to you not because I think you need to hear every constituent's story but because this constituent is counting on you to make sure my child is protected. Oh, and being able to call my husband again on Monday (in tears) would be an amazing feeling!!

Signed da da da


Wednesday, May 8

Getting declined

I'm usually more embarrassed when getting declined is involved. But, holy buckets! I felt a bit guilty playing this word since I'm playing this game with a grade school age young man.
But then again...

Monday, May 6

Duck Hunt

If I hadn't ruined it for her, she may have had a chance. Those ducks didn't even see her coming. ;-)

Phoebe may be pretty but she isn't graceful. But, it doesn't matter. After spending all day away from her, I was happy to see her in high spirits. She sure did enjoy her time with her visitor, though. (Wouldn't stop talking about it!)


Friday, April 26


I was delighted to find a familiar friend in the garden today. I'm pretty sure he came back to look over my garden and get things ready for planting. I feel so comfortable knowing there's an old friend who's got my back. I have a feeling it will be another bountiful year.
Happy Spring my Beautiful Friends,

Monday, April 1

Post-Laguna Beach Sluggish...

We sleepily returned from Laguna Beach around 5:00 am on Saturday morning. Not a wink of sleep on the plane but we were able to catch about 4 hours of rest once we returned home. Still feeling a bit sluggish but, as I reflect on the past week, I wouldn't have traded it for the world!!

The patio had an ocean view. And when I say ocean view, I mean, I could hear waves crashing all night long. It was beautiful.

My parents' hospitality was beyond gracious! Not only did they host us in their rental but they carted us off to piers and restaurants and harbors and golf and wineries!! We were truly lucky to be in their care. The first couple of days, I couldn't quite get me grasp on staying awake. I was quite tired and was perfectly content moseying around Laguna Beach and staying close. However, once Monday hit, it was amazing to get out golfing, zoo-ing, wine-ing and more eating!

My favorite day, by far, was our trek out to Temecula. It's SoCal's version of wine country and it is amazing. They have the rolling hills of vineyards and there are about 40 wineries to choose from. Well, we picked out 4 (and another to have lunch) and they were delicious! The wine was yummy and the atmosphere was superb. We'll have to go back again next year and try out 4 more!

Chip and I had a great time on our first true vacation together. I know, right? 7 1/2 years and it's our first time taking a vacation that wasn't associated with work!! Anyway, we look forward to many more to come...

Now, back at home, I'm alone. Chip flew off to DC this morning for a week of training and I'm home with my precious Phoebe all week (whom I missed very much while gone for the week).

Enjoy the pics...

My best photosphere from the vaca! (Click on it and you get the real deal!)

The rest of our wonderful trip!

Sunday, March 10

Shakin' It

We were up to all sorts of trouble this weekend. Well, not really, but we did have a great time laughing it up with friends, sharing deep thoughts, telling jokes and playing a few games. Made a nice trip up to the lake and created a few new memories with some amazing people.

Friday afternoon/evening kicked off our weekend with a stop out at The Hatchery to see my cousin and his man. Of course, we enjoyed some delectable bar food and a few cocktails; thank you, again,  for the wonderful night and entertainment. The games were able to continue back at the lake place. A fun new game called Cards Against Humanity made for an evening of...amusement.

Saturday turned into a Snowed-In day!! We were going to head off to the winery and maybe into town. However, it rained and rained and rained and then snowed and snowed and snowed. Needless to say, it wasn't worth saying on those roads. So, back to the lake place and on with the snow shoes. With the snow coming down like crazy, we trekked across the lake and back again. Holy-heart-attack on a stick! That was a work out. Phwew! Another evening of laughter, games and wonderful conversation. Topped off with a delicious sausage and kraut dinner with the most perfectly prepared veggies! I couldn't think of anything better.

A few text messages with Paul throughout Saturday had me taking photos of eating delicious, non-healthy treats all dang day. I hope they weren't too tempting...

Sunday was a day of clean-up and waiting for a washing machine to complete its 15 minute fill cycle. Holy goodness...

I hope for many more.

PS - We decided to watch the much facebooked about JT hosted what a riot! Loved it.

Friday, February 8


Yay! We're finally listed with our agency in Florida and can start being shown to families! It has been a long road and Chip and I had to put in a lot of foot work to make it happen, but we're hopeful for its outcome. Please keep us in your thoughts and keep your fingers crossed that an expectant mother sees our profile, finds our good nature clearly evident and chooses us to raise a child.

This is the profile that expectant mothers will browse to get their first impression of the Sylvas. If they're intrigued or intereseted, reading our home study or having a phone conference could be the next step.

Sunday, January 20

Should've at least let Grandpa catch one

We enjoyed endured a blustery Saturday on Lake Mille Lacs yesterday for Grandpa's 80th Birth Fishing Celebration. We couldn't believe how quick the winds came up. bit, really, we did enjoy ourselves. The company could not have been finer, the accommodations were cozy but warm and the anecdotes never ended  Though no one was able to catch a single fish during the 'tournament.' there were a few doozies pulled out of the lake during off-peak times. I don't have a picture of Sissy's 27-incher, but she was happy to share with anyone who inquired. I also heard a few other stories about great catches.

Check out the pics for yourself. You may not find any fishes, but the wind pictures and few videos are quite entertaining. (You'll have to click on them to get videos to play.)


Wednesday, January 16

Lucky Charms

We're so lucky to have support from friends and family. Just moments after we shared with a select few friends that we were undergoing the process to adopt, we had our first lucky charm gifted to us. Our friend Starrsha returned from her annual trip to the West coast with a precious gem to wish us well in our adventure.

Then, a couple of days ago, Chip and I had Chinese for dinner. Upon opening his fortune, it couldn't have been better timing, his face lit up. His fortune read, "A small lucky package is on its way to you soon."

Now, these 2 little tokens are resting in the baby's room, awaiting our new arrival!


Sunday, January 13

Just a couple projects

We had a lot of fun this weekend while working super hard on a couple of big projects around the house. The first was a project that I've been on Chip about for awhile now. We recently purchased a new dining room table, therefore, had to move the old table out of the dining room. Well, the old table happens to have been a table that has been in my family for a few generations, so it had a bit of sentimental value to me. But I am a practical man (sometimes) and understand that it couldn't live in our dining room forever. It was old, creaky and not made from the highest quality wood. So, there wasn't much we could do with it. It has been sitting in the basement for about 4 months while ideas have been spinning in Chip's melon. Well, those ideas panned out well. The final product (though bigger than expected) turned out beautifully. It now has a home in our bedroom housing our belts, watches, PJs and undershirts. It's beautiful!

The second project was one that started tugging on our heartstrings. As our application reached its destination on Friday and is hopefully being processed, we have started thinking a lot about getting prepped for our little bundle. Painting was the number one thing on the list and also a pretty quick and inexpensive place to start. Phoebe's room has officially been converted to 'the baby's' room. Which means we are one step closer to being ready for an addition to our family. Chip had to put on the breaks because I wanted to get artwork on the walls and get things in place. However, it's difficult when furniture isn't in place. We'll get there. I'm sure there are a few more weekends between here and baby arrival time...

Some before and after pics...

It looks a little blue, we're hoping once furniture and artwork gets in place, it'll gray out. We'll be posting pics and baby room updates on 'The Baby's Room' page. I'm sure updates will land here, as well. :)

Once again, we had a great weekend and we look forward to many more preparing for a new arrival.


Saturday, January 5

2013: The Year of the Baby

According to the Chinese calendar I was born in the year of the Rat. Chip in the year of the Dog. If all goes well, the stars be aligned and the fat lady sings, our child will be born in the year of the Snake. We've been researching, filling out paperwork, going to classes and filling out more paperwork all to bing us to this moment. We are very hopeful that 2013 will bring us our first child.

Our current status reads that we will be soon listed with an agency in Florida. We are listing with an agency in the South because the need for adoptive parents is high thus we'll hopefully have a placement sooner. Heart of Adoption came as a recommendation from a couple we met through our social worker and we were encouraged to find out they placed with four gay couples in 2012. We have great hope that we'll be a part of their 2013 statistics.

Our next steps at home include painting a bedroom, repurposing an armoire and beginning to make a list of things we'll be needing and looking for. We are very grateful for the beautiful letters of recommendation that helped us start this process. And we're finding out gratitude carried through as we continue to receive such positive support from our friends and families. This has been a long journey so far and we're expecting to have a bit of trek in front of us yet.

I can't begin to share the emotions that stir daily as our process continues. I'm sure there is a word for it, but it escapes me ... However, it is best summed up by the look on our faces anytime the topic is brought up and we're allowed to share our current chapter in this story. Stay tuned...